A Lullaby for Sam

Samuel David Sickmiller was born at 12:37am October 26, 2011. He weighed 8 lbs., 4 oz. and had a head full of black hair. He was born out of love and will remain forever loved, by family and friends.

“Samuel David, forever loved infant son of Mark and Jennifer Sickmiller, lost his life suddenly Oct. 26, 2011. Samuel is the cherished grandson of David R. and Terri Mueller, John and the late Nancy Sickmiller; the great grandson of Gloria T. Mueller and Marjorie Sickmiller; the nephew of Angie and Mark Armbruster, Adam and Danielle Sickmiller, Billy and Michelle Tegge, and Shaun and Amanda Reisenberg. Services were held privately for the family. ‘Unable are the loved to die, for love is immortality.’ —Emily Dickinson”

Sam’s dad, our good friend Mark, wrote a lullaby while our good friend Jen, Sam’s mom, was pregnant. Mark and Jen told me about it. At first, I couldn’t bring myself to listen to it, so sad I was for Jen, Mark and Sam. (Which, in retrospect, seems ridiculous when recognizing the strength Jen possessed to go through labor, knowing the outcome, and recognizing the strength both Mark and Jen have had to wake up in the morning to care for their beautiful golden retrievers, to eat, to put socks on, to breathe. They are two of the strongest people I know.)

A few days later, at around 3am, I woke suddenly from a hard sleep to one of the most beautiful songs I’ve ever heard. Andy, who was having trouble sleeping that night, was listening to it. Even never having heard it before I knew immediately that it was Sam’s lullaby. It is beautiful. And it is a most fitting tribute to wonderful Baby Sam.

I asked Jen and Mark if I could share it. They said yes. I wish the whole world could hear it. Because to listen to it is to listen to love.

You may listen to it here.

I can’t think of a more fitting quote than to end this post with the one Jen and Mark chose for Sam’s obituary. It holds such great truth. Sam, you are loved. By many.

“Unable are the loved to die, for love is immortality.” —Emily Dickinson