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Best Triple Stroller

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I first learned about Valco strollers from my friend Peggy, also a mom to a toddler and newborn twins. I ran into her (and her fabulous stroller) at Cincinnati Children’s Museum. She found hers on eBay—in Florida. Friends, while vacationing in Florida, picked it up and drove it back to Fort Thomas for her. I found mine on Craigslist—in Baltimore. My mother-in-law graciously drove a good hour to pick it up for me, strapped it on top of her car and then drove it home. Several weeks later my in-laws drove it to Fort Thomas for me.

It’s not that Valco strollers are impossible to find. You can buy them new. But they’re expensive. Really, really expensive. Like, my-dad’s-pretty-sure-my-sister’s-first-car-cost-less-than-that expensive. But if you’re lucky—and determined enough—to find one used, they’re so very much worth it. But I say lucky, and determined, because they’re difficult to find. And you have to be quick. And willing to ask family and friends who live outside of Cincinnati (I never see them listed for sale, used, in Cincinnati) to go to some stranger’s house, and buy and transport it for you (and even folded, it’s big). And you have to negotiate accessories—or be willing to shell out a pretty penny for them (for example, the toddler seat alone runs $100 new). And finally, you have to be willing to answer strangers’ questions about your stroller when pushing it in public, because everyone asks questions about it—this can be difficult for someone who mostly just smiles at strangers. But it’s all so very much worth it.

A regular triple stroller (three seats front-to-back or three seats side-to-side) is simply too big for me. And a double stroller is problematic when Sophie decides she no longer wants to walk or she no longer wants to hold my hand or I’m in a crowded, high-traffic place. But this ingenious thing has what they call a toddler seat—I put the boys in the side-by-side double stroller (which easily fits through doors) and Sophie sits on top of them, in what we jokingly call her throne—the toddler seat. She loves it. The boys are comfortable thanks to the newborn headrests and padded straps. It steers like a dream.

Before kids I probably would have silently made fun of women who got so worked up about strollers. Before kids I probably would have thought $50 a reasonable amount of money to spend on something I’ll only use a few years, once or twice a day (if that). Before kids I probably wouldn’t have finished reading this post. But now that I have kids, an easy way to get out of the house, go places, explore and see becomes so necessary—not only for me, but also, I believe, my children. And while that may sound overly dramatic, it truly is difficult to go somewhere alone, with a toddler who needs hand-holding and two babies who can’t yet walk, without a contraption of some sort. My car requires car seats. I can’t bike with all of them. I can’t hold all of them. I can’t wear all of them. But with this, I can push all of them. And thus, I feel free.

“I have always had strong maternal instincts. Even when I was still a child I cut out pictures of prams from newspapers and imagined the feeling of pushing my own pram through fresh winter snow and seeing the wheels’ tracks behind me in the snow.” —Agnetha Faltskog

Halloween

While Grandma was still in town we did our annual trip to Neltner’s Farm & Greenhouses for pumpkins. My parents came, too. Turns out juggling a toddler and two newborns, even with three grandparents along for help, is difficult—hence the lack of photos.

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We took two little pirates and a dragon to the Fort Thomas Jack-o-Lantern Walk, one of my favorite Fort Thomas activities. The wind was bitingly cold, though, so we had to keep the boys in their car seats. As such, the stroller in which their car seats fit wasn’t appropriate for the wooded path in which all the jack-o-lanterns were situated and lit. So I took Sophie through while Andy met us near the end. We also skipped the Polaroid picture this year—maybe next year (if they still have film left!).

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Friday night Sophie helped Andy carve a Dora pumpkin (she also ate several Halloween-sized Kit Kats). I held the boys. They watched. We bought three pumpkins at the pumpkin farm, and had all the intention in the world of carving all three, but one thing I’ve learned about having a toddler and newborn twins is this: nothing works out as planned. If I remember it was closing in on 11pm when we finished the Dora pumpkin. Sophie was in bed but the boys were still up and the thought of carving two more pumpkins that evening exhausted me. I suppose it was silly to experience guilt over this, but I did.

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Saturday my parents came over with treats (no tricks!) for the kids. My mom made adorable candy corn bags. The boys each got a toy and Sophie got crayons and glitter stickers for her craft projects.

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I had to wake up Sophie from a nap to make the city’s early trick-or-treat time this year (4pm to 6pm). She’s not the most agreeable person when woken up from a nap, and early on, she wouldn’t agree to wear her dragon hat. So Andy wore it.

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We buckled our little pirates into our new stroller, …

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took a family picture, …

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Andy carried Sophie and …

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off we went.

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My parents graciously stayed behind to pass out candy for us—this way we both were able to take Sophie trick-or-treating. (And about the empty pots … they were filled with beautiful mums at one time, but I never watered them. I don’t know why I thought I’d have time to water porch plants this season.)

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Check out those wings!

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After going to several houses around our new house, we walked up to Grant street to trick-or-treat at our old neighbors’ houses and visit the Beets. Along the way, I made a deal with Sophie. She could have one piece of her Halloween candy if she wore her dragon hat. She thought about this for a good minute. And then said, “deal.” We shook on it (we shake on “deals” all the time now—it’s helped me deal with her two-ness quite well). Here Zoey, an adorable peacock, is trying to figure out what, exactly, Sophie is wearing.

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Check out Marty’s amazing Lego Man costume. He made it (and one for Angel, too).

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family picture

“Pixie, kobold, elf, and sprite,
All are on their rounds tonight;
In the wan moon’s silver ray,
Thrives their helter-skelter play.” —Joel Benton

On Teaching Art

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Sophie …

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teaching James how to draw.

“In teaching you cannot see the fruit of a day’s work. It is invisible and remains so, maybe for 20 years.” —Jacques Barzun

Surprising Katy

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A couple weekends ago, thanks to the help of Jill, Marty and, especially, Andy, I did something I’ve always wanted to do—I left Fort Thomas at 7am (by myself) and drove to Winston-Salem, NC, to surprise my sister with a weekend visit.

It was so strange, to stop for breaks and simply walk out of the car, without negotiating, unbuckling, unstrapping, pulling out, carrying, adjusting, talking to, singing to, running after, laughing with anyone. I missed it. And enjoyed it.

When I got to Katy’s school, she was working at her desk, waiting for her husband, Tom, to finish up football practice (he’s the junior high coach). I stood at the door to her classroom for a minute or two, just watching. I had never seen it before. Never seen her in that environment. I was a bossy kid. When we played school as children, I was always the teacher. She was always the student. (Now I couldn’t imagine teaching 30+ kids.)

Finally, I yelled, Surprise! She cried. I cried. As should happen in the best surprises.

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Here’s her classroom.

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The next day, after a glorious eight hours of sleep, I helped Katy and Tom register at Babies R Us. Then we met Katy’s very good friend Kim, her husband Don and their adorable son Max, at the Lexington Barbecue Festival.

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Katy, Tom, and Brees (Baby Rees to be!)

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The next day we met their good friend Steve for lunch at Mellow Mushroom in the American Tobacco Historic District.

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Then we visited my good friends Matt and Christi, and finally got to meet their new son, the adorable Quinn.

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It was such a fun visit. And went by so fast. I miss her so, so much. Especially on weekends—specifically Sunday afternoons. I just feel like that is when we’d spend time with each other, shopping, watching a movie, getting ice cream. But for three short days I got that, complete with staying up way past our bedtimes, in pjs, on the living room couch, slap-happy from laughing so much.

“You keep your past by having sisters. As you get older, they’re the only ones who don’t get bored if you talk about your memories.” —Deborah Moggach

Grandma and Grandpa Visit

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Andy’s parents recently spent a week with us. Grandma spent much of her time in situations like this—entertaining all of her grandchildren (and granddog). They brought us our fantastic new/used stroller (more on that later), helped watch all three kids so I could surprise my sister with a visit (more on that later) and painted Sophie’s room (pictures to come!).

Grandma helped with a trip to Toddler Time at the local library, cooked, and helped feed and diaper babies. Grandpa spent hours on Sophie’s room, patching the walls, painting the bead board white, the walls a soft pink and oh-so-pretty pink and green stripes on the wall behind Sophie’s bed.

Often, when Sophie hears or sees a plane, she asks if it’s Grandma or Grandpa, coming to visit again. We’re thankful she gets to see them so often.

“Nobody can do for little children what grandparents do. Grandparents sort of sprinkle stardust over the lives of little children.” —Alex Haley

Sophie & Sam

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Sophie recently learned that she and her friend, Sam, are going to have something special in common—Sam will soon share his house with twin brothers, just like Sophie! So he came over to get the real story of what it’s like to be an older sibling to TWO babies … and to play puzzles.

“It is not economical to go to bed early to save the candles if the result is twins.” —Chinese Proverb

My Body is No Longer My Own

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hair: afternoon plaything for Sophie

hand: bottle holder for Owen

chest: soft bed for James

“We know that birth takes a woman from one place in her life to another. The birth of a child certainly does change her viewpoint of herself and I believe her viewpoint of the world.” —Sameerah Shareef

A Good Cause

Christina Keller, my brother’s longtime girlfriend, is running the NYC Marathon this weekend to support the Alzheimer’s Association New York City Chapter. In addition to working for the Alzheimer’s Association in NYC, she’s worked at an assisted living facility for more than eight years—she knows how devastating this disease can be. She’s so close to her fund-raising goal—if you know anyone who has been affected by this disease, or simply want to do your good deed of the day, think about donating. You can do so here. Thank you!!!

“In Alzheimer’s [disease] the mind dies first: Names, dates, places—the interior scrapbook of an entire life—fade into mists of nonrecognition.” —Matt Clark

New Winter Hats

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I bought the boys winter hats from an Etsy store called The Royal Blossom.

I love them.

“Wearing a hat is like having a baby or a puppy; everyone stops to coo and talk about it.” —Louise Green

Four Generations, Handmade Clothes & Pie

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To get ready for the kids’ great grandmas’ visit, Sophie helped me make …

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an apple pie.

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And by “help” I mean she ate the apples and learned that you shouldn’t take a bit of an apple slice and then put the rest of the slice back in the unbaked pie crust.

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Great Grandma Gebhart and Owen

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Great Grandma Mangan and James

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Sophie giving my uncle Corey a check-up

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My aunt Ann holding Owen and talking to her son, Ben, who was on his way to teach in Belize (check out his blog here!)

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four generations (it was difficult to get a good picture)

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three kids, in the beautiful outfits their Great Aunt Susan made for them—she sells her handmade clothes on Etsy (check out the site, here!)

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After everyone left and shortly before Andy came home I had a few (oh so brief) minutes in which all three children were napping at once—a most perfect day.

“Good apple pies are a considerable part of our domestic happiness.” —Jane Austen